When you and the person you love break up it can feel as though someone has
driven a truck over your heart; repeatedly. You can’t eat, you can’t sleep and
sometimes you even wonder if you can breathe. Yet, although mending a broken
heart is not an easy task it can be done. These three tips should help you get
over the love of your life and remove those tire marks from your heart.
Kick down the
pedestal
When your relationship ends it can be very easy to forget all of those ways
your ex drove you mad. All of those time when they patronized you, left the
toilet seat up or nagged you about how much you saw your friends are soon
forgotten when those three little words are spoken: ‘It is over’.
In order to mend your broken heart and get over your ex you need to kick
down that pedestal that you have placed them on and remember all of the things
that were wrong with your ex and your relationship. Remember those explosive
rows? Remember their terrible moods? When you take time to remember your ex’s
faults you can begin to see that they weren’t so perfect and that you will find
someone who is just as good, if not better.
Forgive yourself
Relationships are hard and people make mistakes. If you feel like the
relationship ended and that it was entirely your fault then the chances are you
are feeling extremely guilty. Although a certain amount of guilt might be the
appropriate way to feel if you cheated for example, you can’t stay feeling
guilty forever.
If you have done everything you can to try to make your ex feel as good as
they can do about the situation and a good chunk of time has passed, then you
need to start to work on forgiving yourself. It may be that your ex may never
forgive you, or that you never stop regretting your decision, but it is
unhealthy and unfair to stay mad at yourself forever. There has to come a time
when you need to accept that what you have done is wrong, but that what’s done is
done and you can’t change the fact that whatever happened did happen.
Singles list
Although you and your ex had a modern relationship, there are still certain
things you can’t do when you are a couple and that you wanted to try when you
were still in a relationship. It may have been going away on an all girls
holiday or installing a mammoth pool table in your kitchen.
Now that you are single try to keep a positive mental attitude and make a
list of all the things you can do now that you are single. If you can’t think
of any, try to make a list of things that you can do now because you have more
time on your hands or just write down things that you’ve always wanted to try,
but have never got round to doing before. Filling your time with positive new
tasks will help you move on and get over your ex quicker and your life may
actually improve.
