As always, the impression you make on your first date goes a long
way in determining the success of the date and any relationship
thereafter. However, there are some mistakes that, if committed during
your first date, might negatively impact your success. First, you should
be aware of potential actions that might hinder your dating efforts,
and then make efforts to avoid engaging in such actions. In the section
that follows, you will learn about the simple, yet common, mistakes you
can avoid during your first date if you are to make a great first
impression.
1. Showing up drunk
Some people become very
anxious when preparing for a date, especially if it is the first one.
They may lack confidence and feel the need to disguise that discomfort
by taking a sip of alcohol. Sadly, even one sip of alcohol will work
against you. Instead of maintaining humor and great wit to impress your
date, you might lose that creativity-under the influence of alcohol,
wrecking your confidence further. Avoiding alcoholic beverages during
your first date should be an obvious fact, but some people ignore it
anyways.
2. Overindulging in self-talk
Talking about
yourself is very important during a first date, but only if it is done
in an appropriate manner. After all, the purpose of setting up this date
is to gain an opportunity to get to know each other. However, some
people over do it. They talk too much about themselves and overshadow
their date. You should disclose as little as possible so long as it is
appropriate. For men, if you can get the lady to talk about herself,
then good for you. It's better to be a good listener than a good talker.
For ladies, if you talk about yourself during the date, you should also
disclose only as much as is appropriate for the first date. Some talk,
if brought up too soon, can freak out your date, and you might never
hear from him again.
3. Dressing awkwardly
Wearing the right
clothes for the occasion is very important for creating a great first
impression. In this case, you want to wear clothes that make you feel
comfortable. However, you need to take care that you neither overdress
nor under-dress for the occasion. If that happens, you might find
yourself more focused on your clothing, rather than the date, especially
if the venue for the date is a surprise. To avoid such awkward moments,
it is prudent to ask questions beforehand and get an idea of how you
should dress for the occasion.
4. Lateness
If you do not
like to be stood up during your first date, then you will not like if
your date appears several minutes late either. If you feel that the
circumstances will force you to be late for the date, you should
communicate with your date as soon as possible to let them know about
the situation. You should also disclose how late you will be so that
your date will be prepared.To make good first impression though, you
should aim to be in the venue early enough to establish dominance.
