If one wanted
to form new relationships with others, they could pay attention to their
appearance and then look into what they can do to improve it. Along with this,
one could also look into what else they could do to improve themselves.
And once they
have done this, they could end up looking for places where they can socialize
with others. However, one could do this without changing their appearance or
working on themselves.
Two
Approaches
When they are
around others, they could be the ones who make the effort, or they could sit
back and wait for other people to approach them. As to what approach they take
can depend on a number of different factors.
If one is
more reserved, for instance, they may find that other people usually take the
first step, and when they come into contact with someone, they may prefer to
listen. On the other hand, if one is more outgoing they could be the ones who
take the first step, and they could then find that they do most of the talking.
Another
Experience
Having said
that, this might not be the case, and this means that even if one doesn't take
the first step, it doesn't mean that they won't talk, in fact, they could end
up being the ones who talk the most.
And if one
does take the first step, they could also be the ones who don't talk the most.
There is also the chance that each of these people will be in balance, and this
will then mean that there will be times when they talk and times when they
don't.
A Good Way to
Be
Through having this ability, it will give them the chance to create relationships that are in balance. If one could only talk and they were unable to listen, they wouldn't be able to find out others.
Through having this ability, it will give them the chance to create relationships that are in balance. If one could only talk and they were unable to listen, they wouldn't be able to find out others.
Ultimately,
they would be ignoring the other person's needs and they could come across as
self-centered. It might then be a challenge for them to develop relationships
with others, and if they do, it could be a sign that it's only because these
people don't value themselves.
The Other
Side
On the other
hand, if one could only listen and they were unable to talk about themselves,
it won't be possible for other people to find out about their life. As a result
of this, they will be ignoring their own needs.
Other people
could also see them as secretive, and it could then be difficult for them to
connect to them. Thus, one could end up spending time with people who only talk
about themselves, and this could cause them to feel as though their needs are
not important.
Relationships
Nevertheless,
even if one wasn't looking to develop new relationships with others and only
wanted to improve the ones they have, it will still be important for them to be
able to listen and to talk. Therefore, if their relationships are not as they
would like them to be; they could look into whether they are in balance.
During this
time, they may find that although they talk about their own life, they don't
spend much time listening to what their friends have to say. Alternatively,
they may find that even though they listen, they don't share enough of their
own life with others.
Certain
People
And while one
could be a certain way with everyone they know; they could also find that this
is not the case. For example, one may find that even though they are in balance
when it comes to some people, they are not always this way.
But if one is
the same around everyone they spend their time with, it could be said that they
will have all the more reason to change. This could mean that one simply needs
to pay attention to how they behave and then to change their behavior or they
might need to reach out for external support, for instance.
Intimacy
When one's
relationships are not very fulfilling, it could also be a sign that there is a
lack of intimacy. This will then mean that it will be important for one to
reveal more about themselves.
And as they
do this, it may also encourage the people they spend their time with to do the
same thing. One could then find that this will bring them closer to some of the
people they spend their time with and that they will no longer be drawn to
others; this is because some of these people might not be willing to change.
Being
Responsive
In order for
intimacy to take place, one will need to open up and the other person will need
to be responsive to what they have to say. And one will also need to behave in
the same way when someone else opens up.
When this
happens, will one listen to what the other person has to say and they won't
change the subject. This means that one will be displaying empathy and
acknowledging what they have to share.
Everyday Life
However, even
though it will be important for one to be responsive when it comes to
experiencing intimacy, it doesn't mean that this is the only time when it
matters. What this comes down to is that human beings are generally drawn to
people who are responsive to what they have to say.
Due to this,
it won't matter whether they are talking about their feelings or what they have
been doing that day. So through being responsive, one could end up creating a
new friend or they could strengthen an existing relationship.
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