This is for all those guys out there who don't even have an idea
why they are constantly being rejected by a girl. If you really want to
land on a date, it's time to realize what is wrong and start changing
yourself. Girls are quite particular with their partners. It's either
you don't have the qualities that they are looking for or simply put
you are not extending any effort. Women don't want guys who make them
feel unimportant. What's the point of dating a girl if you don't intend
to love her?
Assuming that you are after a serious relationship
with the girl you are about to date, here are some "must-knows" for guys
who are completely oblivious to their flaws.
She has no idea that you are courting her.
Girls
can be naive too, especially those who are quite close to guys. If you
are planning to court your best friend, the first thing you have to do
is clarify what you feel towards her. Do not rush things. An immediate
change of your treatment towards her might scare the girl to the extent
that she would choose not to go with you on a date.
Slowly reveal
your feelings to her and do not add pressure on her shoulders. Remember
that in the first place, she thought you were just a friend. She might
feel betrayed with your prompt declaration of love since she expected
you to value your friendship. You need to be honest about everything.
Reassure her that whatever her decision will be, your friendship will
remain the same.
You are too unique for her taste.
Okay,
your approach might be way too weird. You frighten her and she thinks
you are a pervert and you might eat her alive. Sorry for the
procrastination but before you attempt to even talk to a girl, check
yourself in the mirror first. Indeed, looks don't matter in a
relationship but they do play a vital part in making first impressions.
Don't
shock her with a direct invitation on a date. Get to know her first.
You can bring her some fascinating flowers or buy her some chocolates to
erase her bitterness against you. This is not solely for her purpose
but also for you to examine closely if she is indeed worthy of your
time. Talk to her friends and discover what she is fond of. This will
help you determine if you are actually compatible with each other.
Compatibility is an important thing to consider if you want things
between you to work out.
She's not ready to go in a relationship.
If
you have used up all your hidden gimmicks just to make her say "yes" on
a date but the answer is always negative, there must be something wrong
with her. Involve her in a serious conversation and ask her if you
absolutely have no chance of winning her heart. Be straight to the
point, going around in circles will only prolong your agony. If she
assures you that you are a good guy but instantly provides you with
meaningless alibis, no doubt, she is just not ready for a relationship.
For all you know, the previous guy who has courted her might have broken
her heart into pieces and she is not yet finished fixing them back
together. In short, she has still not moved on. She still needs time and
space to recover what she has lost before she could give you the love
that you deserve.
Women, in general, are very complicated. It
takes time and patience to completely understand them. Be constant in
your effort of showing her your love. Soon, without you knowing it, she
will eventually agree to your most awaited date.
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